This is for my Married
readers most especially ladies. So, if you are a lady [married] this is a
special delicacy for you. Its purpose is to keep the "wedding" aspect
of your marriage lively and lovely.
For my unmarried
friends, this can be of immense help as well but don't practice until
your time comes [I know you have issues with that]
A new study suggests
that people who are comfortable talking about sex are more sexually satisfied,
particularly if they talk during the act itself.
What does this mean for you,
especially if the idea of talking during sex gives you anxiety or you're prone
to shyness? Don't worry. Sexual communication can be both verbal and non
verbal, so there are plenty of ways to communicate with your partner while you're
having sex.
Here are the best ways to
tell your partner what you like in bed:
1. Use non-verbal cues. The study notes that non-verbal communication
during sex was just as effective as verbal. So, if your guy is doing something
that you like, you don't always need to say "don't stop."
Sometimes showing, not telling, works like a charm. Moaning and moving
your body in certain ways will definitely get the point across.
2. Keep it real. Speaking up in bed doesn't mean you have to
pretend that you're in a D-list porn movie or start screaming and moaning in
feigned extacy. You don't have to recite lines or say anything that makes you
uncomfortable. Connect on FACEBOOK
The goal isn't to put on a good
show, it's to communicate to your man what you like so that he can make you
feel as good as possible. Stay true to yourself and your personality, even when
3. Start slow. If you're
used to keeping quiet during sex, take your time transitioning into sexual communication. Gauge how your partner responds and if
it has any effect on the sex, positive or negative.
You might find that as you increase
your communication between the sheets, your sex life really begins to take off.
Coincidence? We think not!
4. Compliments are key. Some women are uncomfortable directly asking for
what they want in bed, so a great way around this is to use compliments as
directions. Guys love positive reinforcement,
and are eager to please.
5. Tell him what he's doing right and he'll work even harder. Next
time, he won't need any directions ... well, not as many. Men love the sound of
their woman enjoying herself in bed because of things he's doing, so let him
know in your own way that you are loving it.
Let me know what you feel about this post. 1 Love y'all.
